What if Worthiness Was Never in Question?
Welcome to Week 9 of my personal challenge: 90 Days to Be Seen.
Recently, I was listening to a podcast about abundance and manifestation, trying to understand how these gurus seem to have it all figured out, when one of them said something that stopped me in my tracks:
"Unworthiness? It’s just not something I experience. I’ve always felt worthy, no matter what."
Wait, what? There are people who just feel worthy?? 🤯
I had always believed that worthiness had to be earned—that I deserved good things only if I worked hard enough, looked a certain way, or reached the right milestones. It was like an invisible scoreboard was constantly tracking whether I had done enough to feel okay about myself. 📊
Have You Ever Felt That Way?
For me, this belief looked like:
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Allowing myself to travel only after working to exhaustion.
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Believing I’d finally be lovable if I lost the weight.
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Always striving, always proving, always waiting to reach "enough."
But lately, I’ve been asking myself: What if I’ve been making this harder than it needs to be? What If Worthiness Isn’t Something to Earn? What if worthiness isn’t a finish line we have to crawl across?
What if it’s as simple as deciding—right now—that we are worthy, not because of what we do, but because we exist?
I won’t lie—this isn’t easy. Sitting with the messy, imperfect parts of myself without rushing to fix them feels uncomfortable. Holding the broken pieces and whispering, "You are still loved" is foreign. ❤️
But what if we stopped trying to heal away our perceived flaws and just let them be? What if we shifted our energy from fixing ourselves to loving ourselves—exactly as we are? ✨
I don’t have all the answers. But I do believe this: When we loosen our grip on the belief that we have to earn our worthiness, we create space for something softer, something truer.
We make space for ourselves.
Journaling Prompt
Think back to a time when you felt unworthy or rejected. How did that experience shape the way you see yourself today? What if you could let go of that story? What might it feel like to see yourself as worthy—not because you’ve earned it, but because you already are?
Mini Challenge
This week, practice radical acceptance of yourself—especially the parts you’ve struggled with. Your body, your past, your quirks, your imperfections. What happens when you stop trying to change them and start welcoming them instead?
With love,
Monica
Monica Stevanovic