The Unexpected Key to Feeling Worthy of Love
What if true self-love isn’t about fixing yourself—but about reconnecting?
Have you ever wondered what it truly means to love yourself? Not just in theory, but in a deep, unshakable way? I thought I had an idea—until last week at my meditation retreat, when an unexpected challenge showed me just how much I still struggle with feeling worthy of love.
You see, I set a goal for myself: to speak to five men during the retreat. Not because I was looking for validation, but because I wanted to push past my own discomfort. And I did it. I spoke with men of all ages, backgrounds, and energies. Some conversations flowed easily, while others were deeply uncomfortable—especially when I found someone particularly attractive. But through that discomfort, I uncovered something unexpected: there is still a part of me that doesn’t feel deserving of love.
I deeply desire a relationship where we truly meet each other, where we help each other grow. And yet, I realized something painful: while I sometimes dismiss certain men as not the right match, the kind of man I do want still feels just out of reach. As if, deep down, I’m not sure I truly deserve him.
Love as a Birthright
But isn’t love our birthright? Should we have to change, prove ourselves, or achieve something just to be worthy of love?
We’ve all heard it a million times: just love yourself, and everything else will fall into place. But how do we actually do that? How do we cultivate deep, unwavering self-love—not just as a concept, but as a felt experience?
At my meditation retreat, we spent hours connecting to Source, allowing that energy to flow through our bodies. And something magical happened. After each meditation, I felt a little lighter, a little more whole. I started to love myself more—not because I “fixed” anything, but because I remembered something I had forgotten.
The Shift: From Self-Improvement to Self-Connection
And that’s when it hit me: true self-love isn’t about self-improvement. It’s about connection.
When we feel separate from the divine, our egos rush in—filling us with doubts, self-judgment, and the belief that we are not enough. But when we reconnect to the Source within us, love becomes effortless. It’s not something we have to create; it’s something we simply remember.
So, I’m making a new commitment—to deepen my daily meditation practice. Not as a task, but as a way to tune in, to reconnect, to hold onto that divine spark within me. To let love flow through me, rather than chase it outside of myself.
And I invite you to join me.
Journaling Prompt:
Where in your life do you feel disconnected—from yourself, from love, from something greater? What practices or moments have helped you reconnect in the past?
Mini-Challenge:
Spend five minutes each day tuning into yourself—through meditation, deep breathing, journaling, or simply placing a hand on your heart and feeling your own presence. Notice how this small act shifts your relationship with yourself.
With love,
Monica
P.S. If you’d like to explore this journey more deeply, here are the first two blog posts that from this series:
Monica Stevanovic